Five Signs You Are Not Ready to Move in Together

“A couple who go on living together merely because that was how they began without any other reason: was that what we were turning into?” –Simone de Beauvoir

So you and your partner have been together for quite some time now. You have both been contemplating the next big step, but are not yet ready to tie the knot just yet. Instead of marriage, you and your partner wish to try and test out the waters first by choosing to live in one house for the meantime. Sure, moving in together sounds like a blissful idea—a milestone in your relationship if you may. Unfortunately, while sleeping and waking up next to your partner sounds like a quixotic and dreamy scenario, if you are doing it for the wrong reasons, you and your partner could potentially face issues and complications down the road.

In any case, if you and your partner are looking for a place to move in together—such as in Avida Towers Centera perhaps or elsewhere, it might be wise to revisit and reevaluate the reasons why you are both doing this. If you find any of your reasons listed below, it might be best if you waited a little longer until you moved into a single residence together.

1.) You are doing it because it is financially easier

Romantic and cheesy scenarios aside, you and your partner are thinking of moving in together because it seems like the practical approach. Living together with your partner means that you would have to pool your resources together to defray day-to-day expenses and from your standpoint, it seems like a financially sound idea. However, no matter how counterintuitive this might sound, you should never commingle funds unless you are both legally tied down. After all, you would not want to develop a consumer-based framework for your relationship that basically relies on economic ease.

2.) You have a volatile relationship

Sure, it is healthy for couples to have disputes now and then—after all, it encourages relationship growth. However, if you and your partner are constantly fighting day after day, it might not be a good idea to live under one roof. If you think that living together would magically put an end to your disagreements and wrangles, you are in for a rude awakening.

3.) You do not see them as your potential spouse

If you, as an individual, are a firm believer in marriage and cannot see your partner as someone you might potentially tie the knot with, moving in together would be pointless. Although marriage is no prerequisite for moving in together, it is a prospect or a foregone conclusion for individuals who do want to get married. If you do not see yourself sharing his name, or see yourself giving her your name, then what is the point of moving in together?

4.) You are doing it under the impression that it would strengthen your relationship

Before moving in, you should already feel strongly about your significant other. If you are doing it purely because you think it will strengthen your relationship ties and make you a stronger couple, then you are doing it for all the wrong reasons. If you think you and your partner are not quite there yet, there is no reason to force yourself (and your relationship for that matter) into a space that you are not quite ready for.

5.) You are too shy of your basic bodily functions whenever you are around your partner

When you live under one roof, some bodily functions such as burping, farting and even pooping are inevitable things that would happen to your partner. If these are things you are still shy about, you might want to put a hold on the whole moving in together phase. In any case, your relationship might not even be mature enough for that phase yet.

 

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Mind Your “Apartment Manners”

Being on your own doesn’t mean you can go around the area and trash the place. You need to build a good reputation. A good reputation will help you get along with your neighbors. It makes the landlord proud of you. Most of all, you learn to live accordingly.

You need to cultivate manners. Being a twenty-something at the Lerato for rent is classy, but nothing beats a tenant with manners. Nowadays, renters and homeowners are much focused on traveling. They forget to provide a sense of community because they are not bent on settling. Still, people with class would rather have apartment decorum before expensive upholstery.

Manners are easy to learn if you give time to it. Here are five civilities you can practice:

Sending warm greetings to neighbors

It feels nice to receive a “good morning” with a smile.

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Why don’t you try doing the same to the people next door?

Offer a smile and nod to acknowledge their presence when you encounter anyone from the building.  That way, they can warm up to you. Bid them a good day and remember to say please or thank you every time something comes up. A sincere greeting now and then is the easiest way for people to like you. Plus, they will remember you for your pleasant attitude and friendly demeanor.

 

Spending time with family and friends

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It may not be your neighbors’ business, but having no one come to your home may send warning bells. Neighbors can get suspicious of you.

It’s unusual to have no family or friends come over, even just once.

To avoid suspicion, invite your relatives and friends over the weekend.  You may not have the luxury to meet them in your hometown or at the usual hangout joint, but your apartment is free. Bring the festivities at indoors. Host a dinner or slumber party. You can also offer your place as a chill-out spot for the barkada. You can suggest a potluck on food and drinks if you’re not the type to cook.

 

Keeping your apartment tidy.

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Consider other people in the vicinity, especially if you live in Lerato. If you are not aware, your home extends to the other areas of the complex like the fitness area, pool, gardens and parking lot.

 

Practicing neatness and order doesn’t stop at your unit.

Try not act like a privileged neighbor who has an au pair which follows your every move. If you have to dispose of your trash, properly segregate and wrap it. Take note of collection dates and don’t leave a week’s worth of junk at your door. Don’t expect others to dump it for you. Stocking the junk will leave an unpleasant smell. Neighbors will come knocking at your door.

At the same time, don’t be a slob behind closed doors. While no one can see the state of your rental on days you are in a rush, the stress of having a messy space can affect you. What’s worse, you never know when maintenance will visit. Better keep the place clean at all times.

When people come over, remind them of the rules in the building. It’s best they follow them to avoid penalties. It’s hard to get branded as misfits.

Organizing and making the space personal.

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Space is limited in a rental. It doesn’t have the comforts of a house, especially when hanging clothes. Have a space for hanging delicates in the kitchen or corner space instead of the balcony. Place these pieces of clothing out of the way.

Try to personalize your living area.

Add decorations that will bring out your personality. A cozy interior provides a breather from the pressures of work and daily life. Inspirational pieces will break the monotony of the space and motivate you in the walls of your home.

 

Prioritizing your health.

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Spreading virus and bacteria especially in confined spaces is possible. The elevator, function rooms and communal are possible breeding grounds for harmful diseases.

Be a good neighbor by taking care of your health so you won’t be the one to start an epidemic in the area. Stay active and make use of fitness amenities in the complex. The moment you find yourself with signs of any sickness, take some rest. If it doesn’t go away, visit your doctor.

If you start practicing these five manners, neighbors will start being cordial to you. Ditch the habit of being a flighty millennial and embrace the warmth of belonging to a community. Attend to your manners and your apartment’s building will be the oasis you crave.

Home Is Where The Heart Is: Five Ways to Make Your Home More Inviting

“The greatest investment and greatest fair deal and enterprise is family, cozy homes. A cozy home is based on cozy people. Cozy people are not brought and imported; they are made from the time of birth to the time of infinity.” -Harbhajan Singh Yogi

 

Home is where the heart is.

This is a familiar adage that sagely proclaims that our homes should be a form of sanctuary—a haven if you might, where we are called not only to rest our bones and weary bodies but somewhere we can feel safe and comfortable. Our homes should not only be structures made of bricks and stones but that place where every single one of us can look forward to going after a long and tiring day. As it is, the best memories are forged in a home that cultivates a cozy and inviting atmosphere—one that beckons visitors to come in, have guests linger for a little while longer and make family members never want to leave. Indeed, a place such as this would give you the fondest memories and a relaxed lifestyle.

However, how does one create an inviting home? How do you ensure you can cloak it with an inviting aura that entices people to stay? Whether you have a condo in Manila or a flat elsewhere, here are some of the creative ways you can create that inviting atmosphere:

1.) Let your front door and entryway set the inviting tone

An excellent way to establish an atmosphere that beguiles is to set the tone first. In doing so, you will not only be making a good first impression, but you would create enough interest for your guests to discover more about your home. Elevate your curb appeal and never underestimate the inviting power of a front door and entryway. Install a welcome mat and a few potted plants by your front door. Furthermore, you should make sure that this area is clean and devoid of any clutter.

2.) Use color and other design tricks to pull eyes through your space

In designing an inviting space, consider your guests’ perspectives. With this in mind, you should pay close attention to utilizing a creative design at the farthest point of view. An excellent example of this is to install a painting on the far wall just across from your front door. Emphasize this design piece by adding more fun art and lighting beside it. This design aspect alone will intrigue your guests and would pull them through your home all the while inviting them to explore your space.

3.) Have as many leafy, long, trailing and green plants

Incorporate natural elements into your home and make it seem eco-friendlier by strategically placing green, long and trailing plants all over the place. Potted plants not only make your home seem a natural, but they also enliven the space by bringing life to it. Additionally, the abundance of plants promotes a relaxing and calming ambiance that would be ideal for individuals looking to have a little relaxing space after a long and busy day.

4.) Personalize at least one furniture piece

One way to make your home more inviting and a lot more unique is to have at least one personalized furniture piece. This furniture piece can be anything—from a reupholstered furniture designed in a fun fabric or artwork you made yourself—let this be the distinctive feature of your home that sets it apart from the others (and keep it from looking like the inside of a catalog). Furthermore, personalized furniture pieces or design pieces make for excellent conversation starters as well.

5.) Have good smell linger in your home

One great way to make a significant impact on your guests is not only to stimulate their visual senses but their olfactory sense as well. Rid your house of any bad smell and have a signature scent you can have lingering in your home. If you want to take the natural route, place a vase full of fragrant flowers and it will do the trick. Alternatively, you can use potpourri as well. If you have a sensitive nose and are adverse to fragrances, then at the very least make sure your home does not have any bad smells lingering about.

Five Important Things to Know When Living Alone

“True independence and freedom can only exist in doing what is right.” -Brigham Young

So, you have graduated college, established a career and are now prepared to embark on your life’s next milestone. You have saved enough money to finally live on your own and away from your family to discover new heights and reach your fullest potential. Indeed, living alone can be quite a thrill. The freedom and independence that come along with it are nothing short of exhilarating. However, while living alone means no one can prevent you from doing anything and everything you like, it does not mean that it comes without a set of responsibilities. Before you start scouring the metropolis for prospective Manila properties you can live in, know that living alone means having to fend for yourself. After all, you only have yourself to rely on so it would be understandable to expect a degree of answerability to yourself as a consequence.

For some, the responsibilities that do entail in living independently may be too cumbersome to handle, while others may flourish in their solitude. Regardless, if you have even given living alone some consideration, here are things you should know and expect:

1.) There will be unplanned expenses

No matter how meticulously you partitioned your monthly salary for utility bills, groceries and the like, know that there will be unplanned yet inevitable expenses. No, these are no the things you buy on a whim or an impulse. There are likely events that would cost you to fork some cash to maintain a semblance of livability in your home. An example of this is an appliance breaking down on you or some plumbing repairs that would need to be immediately taken care of. These are things that cannot wait until the next month for repairs if you want to live comfortably.

2.) You need a decent amount of money

Suppose you have gone through leaflets and scoured the web for the ideal home and found one. To your surprise, it is just within your budget. Unfortunately, it might not be as simple as you think. Apart from the money you pay for rental dues, there might be a security deposit you would need to defrag as well. Depending on where you live, your landlord might even request a consigner for the least. To top all that, if you are going to live in an unfurnished flat, you would also need to have your own furniture to fill it up with. With all this in mind, it is important to have a decent amount of savings before deciding on living alone.

3.) Read your contract

If you are planning on renting out a flat, take note that you need to read your lease contract thoroughly. This is because the contents within are legally binding and if you neglect to read it, you may be inadvertently agreeing to something you actually do not. It might be tempting to skim over a lot of pages instead of poring over them then sign it at once, but you will be glad you did not do that if you find something you are not amenable to. Remember, should you break your lease, you are bound to pay up.

4.) You cannot take everything

You might want to pack every single thing you have in your parents’ house that you own, but know that this might not be possible. For one, the space you have might be limited and another thing, you will have more work to do and would have to expend more effort. Additionally, you might end up just filling your new flat with a lot of clutter as well.

5.) You need to spruce up

Living alone means cleaning up for yourself unless you want to live in a hovel. Everything you own would inevitably get dirty and the longer you put them for cleaning later, the more grime they accumulate. Apart from your dishes, you are responsible for your laundry and the general cleanup of your flat. So, if you want to live comfortably (and healthily I might add), it is best if you clean up regularly.

Hassle-free Move: Four Tips and Tricks to Make Moving Day Stress-Free

It is no doubt that moving day can be one of the stressful days you will ever experience in your life. Of course, collecting, stashing away and moving your entire household is no easy feat, so you are inevitably going to encounter a lot of stressors along the way. After all, in the years that you have lived through your old home, stripping it down of your possessions and packing them away can seem like a herculean task—especially if you have spent a significant number of years accumulating your belongings. However, there are ways of ensuring that your moving day goes on without a snag and without ruffling any of your family members’ feathers. Your moving venture might be a huge endeavor, but with a solid strategy and good planning, you can be assured that it would go smoothly for the most part.

So, whether your change of address is to a condo in Manila or elsewhere, here are some tips that will help you make your moving day easy and stress-free:

1.) Start weeks or even months in advance

If you live in a relatively small home with a meager number of possessions, you can start packing weeks before your moving day. However, if you live in a sprawling home with too many valuables to count, you might as well start as early as you can—even months prior to your moving date. Although your moving date may seem rather far, it is best to make some progress in your packing than be overwhelmed with the sheer number of things you have to do come moving day. True, it might be tempting to leave packing at the last minute—especially if you dislike living among boxes or have to use some things inside them. But you will be glad to have packed earlier than you should have. Just remember to pack the things you are not regularly using first and leave your daily essentials for last.

2.) Be organized

Being organized is key during your move as it aids you in staying on top of things. To make sure you stay organized during the move, have a list of all the tasks that you need to do and divide them in weeks. This would give you ample time to complete whatever is written on a particular week’s list. A typical organized moving day list would consist of eight weeks of their own respective tasks.

3.) Clean out the clutter

Clutter can not only induce headaches, but they are eyesores as well that would do nothing to prove visual aesthetics. If you have a lot of clutter lying around at home, it would be a good idea to start getting rid of them before you even start packing. In this way, you would feel a lot more organized. Additionally, getting rid of the clutter would prevent you from packing things you would not necessarily need in your new home—saving you from all of the frustration in getting rid of them once you unpack and get settled into your new place.

4.) Label your boxes and bags

To know where items to be packed should go and to easily identify which is which, you should label all of your boxes and bags. Apart from categorizing them and knowing what the contents inside are, this would also help you determine which boxes and bags are to be opened and unpacked first. Typically, this is best done if the box is labeled according to where its contents will be placed (labeled per room). However, it would also be ideal if you also wrote and included the contents of its label. Boxes that contain important and sensitive documents such as birth certificates, insurances, passports and the like should be placed in a secure folder and should have a different marking than the rest. Ideally, this folder should be in your person at all times.

Where to Dine in UP Town Center

There are some Ayala Malls, but UP Town Center is something special. The idea is that for the students, workers, and residents around the area to have a place which would respond to their needs and wants. The 7.4 hectare UP Diliman East Campus property will be reconstructed to become a hub of opportunities and businesses. Aside from the stores and restaurants in this establishment, there are a lot of events and activities held in UP Town Center. UPTC, as fondly called by their visitors, is open every day, from 10 in the morning until 9 in the evening every Sunday to Thursday, and until 10 pm during Friday and Saturday. Some stores have their own schedule so check them out as well.

To give you a quick food trip in UP Town Center, here are the ten places where you could (and should) try dining at:

Silantro Fil-Mex

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Silantro Fil-Mex, Silantro for short, is known for serving Mexican food infused with Filipino taste. You’d get delicious food and fine service with a good price. Since the place is superb, expect a lot of people dining so if possible, get a reservation before you visit.

What you should try: Beef nachos, Beef Quesadillas, Chicken wings, Seafood Paella (and you can order alcoholic beverages too!)

St. Marc Café

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If you’re out for a quick snack and some refreshing drinks or desserts, St. Marc Café is your go-to. This specialty bakery and patisserie is a well-known place from Japan. They envision and work towards satisfying the needs of their customers, as well as making them “need” some more.

What you should try: Little Fuji, Kyoto Delight, Mango Fantasy, Nara, Matcha Latte, Freshly Brewed Coffee, Egg Salsa, Chococro, Salmon Cheese Potato, Carbonara

Cold Stone Creamery

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Serving the finest, freshest ice creams, cakes, smoothies and shakes for 25 years, Cold Stone Creamery is really something. This international franchise from Arizona has a signature way of delivering ice creams as it’s created on a frozen granite stone.

What you should try: Berry Berry Berry Good, Birthday Cake Remix, OREO Overload, Midnight Delight (and you can also create your own mix)

Pepper Lunch

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ペッパーランチ Peppaa-Ranchi is a “fast steak” restaurant in Japan and was established in 1994. The customers can cook their food choice of beef, chicken, pork, and salmon over an electromagnetic plate which is heated up to 260 degrees Celsius to make sure that your meat is perfectly cooked. You can also pick your seasoning and sauce – Amakuchi or the brown honey sauce, or Karakuchi or the garlic soy sauce.

What you should try: Beef pepper rice, Shimofuri pepper steak, Salmon pepper rice, Beef BBQ Yakiniku with egg

Rodic’s Diner

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Since 1949, Rodic’s Diner serves nothing but the best beef tapa and garlic rice. They are known for being a budget-friendly restaurant for classic Filipino food.

What should you try: Tapsilog, Kare-Kare, Sisig with egg and rice

Mama Lou’s Italian Kitchen

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As what the name suggests, Mama Lou’s offer yummy Italian cuisine along with a relaxing ambiance. Mama Lou’s Italian Kitchen started in 2010 and still delivering good food which they are known for.

What should you try: Spinach and goat cheese pizza, Italian sardine pasta, Gnocchi, Vesuvio, Take the Cannoli

Backyard Kitchen + Brew

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If you are looking for a chill place to eat or grab some drinks alone or with friends, Backyard Kitchen + Brew offers good food, drinks, and company. It also has an artsy interior to add to its ambiance and comfort. The servings are enough for you to share, but you might want to eat it alone because the dishes they give are nothing less than perfect.

What should you try: Slow roasted pork and beef belly, Salted egg chicken skin, Buffalo wings, Tinapa and Quinoa Salad (and alcoholic drinks as well.

Feng Shui 101: 3 Ways to Make your Home a Haven of Good Fortune for the Year of the Rooster

“Feng Shui is the study of the environment and how it affects people. It has nothing to do with luck and everything to do with space that promotes feelings of happiness and well-being”- Cathleen McCandless

“Feng Shui is about reclaiming your life’s energy and directing it towards balance and purpose. The result is greater harmony in your space and life.” -Wahida Young

One of the best ways to usher in the new Chinese New Year is to make certain that your home is auspicious to the designated Chinese Zodiac. According to Chinese Zodiac enthusiasts, 2017 marks the year of the Fire Rooster or alternatively known as the Fire Phoenix. Feng Shui experts have slated this year as an excellent time for transformation. Incidentally, homeowners are known to make some new changes during the start of the year which would make it the perfect opportunity to begin your own home’s transformation. To make it more favorable for this year of the rooster, utilize the tips below so that regardless of whether you are living in Ayala Bacolod or elsewhere, you would invite good fortune in.

1.) Make sure your home is ready

At the start of any year, whether Chinese or Gregorian, it is always best to welcome it by cleaning your home. In fact, a general practice of feng shui is to clear away the clutter in your homes to improve the flow of energy. Without a doubt, a clutter-free home makes for less stress, and it would be a whole lot easier to arrange and decorate as you wish and make it even more auspicious for the coming new year.
After making your place ready, you can then identify which sectors of your home are considered lucky and unlucky for this year. With a compass, identify which areas of your home are the south, north, east, and west ends.

2.) Ward off bad luck

For this year, Chinese Feng Shui master has identified the south, southwest, west, and northwest as the unlucky sectors of the home for 2017. Do not place too much emphasis on these areas lest you invite misfortune such as accidents, financial challenges, accidents and even harrowing experiences. To prevent an “activation” of these unlucky sectors, it is best not to linger or sleep in any of these areas. As an added precaution, you can put five stones in a can and place it on the south side of the home. This will aid the metal element to neutralize the earth element which is the bringer of misfortune. Additionally to counteract illness, place a glass of salt or a salt lamp in the northwest area of your home. Prevention of burglary, theft, and betrayal can be done by placing a glass of water in the southwest sector, and when placed in the west, it can ward off misunderstandings and anger.

3.) Inviting good fortune

Of course, there are also ways to invite good fortune and luck in the new year—particularly in the north, center, east, southeast and northeast areas of your home. The more time you spend in these areas, the better your chances are of enhancing your luck. Apart from lingering in these areas, you need to make sure that they are well-lit as this is one of the surefire ways to make them more receptive to positive energy. Additionally, colors would play a pivotal role in bringing good fortune to a home all of which would depend on the direction a home is facing. This is incredibly ideal for those with homes who are in need of a fresh coat. So, if you are planning to repaint your home, consider the color that would best enhance the energy that flows around it.

 

House Shopping: Four Things to Pay Attention to During A Property Tour

So you have decided to buy a home and know exactly what you need—from the number of rooms you want down to the square footage and the type of porch it has. Fortunately, the website has provided sufficient photos for you to peruse and examine. However, these photos rarely capture the true essence of your home, and though they may say a thousand words, you would never get the proper feel of the home unless you see it for yourself. Whether you choose a home in Ayala land lot in Bacolod or elsewhere, it is always imperative to check the house or lot for yourself. Pictures complemented with flowery and descriptive captions rarely do the actual house justice which is why property and on-site visits are pivotal to every potential homeowner who wishes to buy a home that he or she would love.

Additionally, as a smart homeowner, you would also ask for this to be a part of the process to be safe as you would never know if the photos uploaded online were doctored.
However, to make the most out of your property tour, you need to be critical of several aspects that would significantly affect your decision as to whether to push through the purchase of the home. Initially, you would want to check the bedrooms, the kitchen and the pavement of these prospective homes, but do not neglect to check these other areas as well:

1.) The Neighborhood

Consider that in buying a home, you are not simply buying the house itself, but you are also buying into its neighborhood feel as well. Choosing the appropriate neighborhood is just as important as choosing the right home and more often than not if the neighborhood does not sit well with you, you would not push through with the purchase of the home situated there. On your visit, take note of how the traffic, the condition of the other homes in general proximity and whether it has convenient access to business districts, schools and amenities your family might need.

2.) The Neighbors

At some point in your stay, you are going to have to make friends with your neighbors. This is inevitable as you are not going to stay holed up in your home for a lifetime. As a wise adage would say, a neighbor can contribute to the value of the property. Consider your potential house and your neighbors as a package deal. Take a general feel of the neighbors and try to decide whether you think you can live with these persons for a considerable number of years.

3.) Privacy

As much as we want to make friends with our neighbors, we do not want them prying into our daily and private lives. On your tour, do a quick scope and see if your bedroom overlooks the neighbor’s bathroom or vice versa. If you are entertaining in your backyard, would your neighbors see what is going on? If you are a very private person, these might be just some of the things you want to consider. They are not necessarily deal breakers though as they are easily remedied by hedges.

4.) Your Garage (Or lack of it for that matter)

Checking out a potential home’s garage is one of the things that is easily overlooked during an on-site inspection. However, this is one of the paramount aspects of a home you should consider. Suppose you have three cars and the potential home you are considering of buying only has room for two with no possible expansion layout schemes, what would you do? You cannot simply park your car in the driveway as this is the quickest way to rub your neighbors in the wrong way and cause traffic. Check the garage and see if it suits you and your needs.

Four Advantages of Living with Extended Family

“It is through our extended family that we first learn to compromise and come to an understanding that even if we do not always agree about things we can still love and look out for each other.” –Sara Sheridan

 

Close family ties and tight-knit relationships are two characteristics that are definitive of Filipino culture.

The typical family home of a Filipino does not only consist of the parents and the kids; but it also extends well beyond to the other relatives such as the grandparents, the aunts, and uncles (and in some cases, even the niece and nephews). It is for this reason that Filipinos foster a great relationship with their relatives as they have been known to see their formative years with them in the home. In fact, save for a different few, Filipino children are known to live in the family home until the day get married, and even then, there would be couples who would choose to continue to live with their parents or several in-laws. Well-meaning friends and relatives may offer some unsolicited advice about living independently and would regale you with stories as regards the wide liberty afforded by independent living.

True enough, there are a lot of benefits when it comes to living alone (no one to boss you around, free to make your own choices without anyone’s interference or disapproval, etc.—truly an ideal setup for a millennial to live. However, not everyone is fortunate enough to afford to live on their own and may have to continue seeking board and shelter under the roof of the very home they spent their childhood in. Here are some of the very great reasons for living with extended family in one home:

 

1.)    LESSER BILLS TO PAY

When you are billeted under one roof, regardless of whether it is a residential home such as Anvaya cove or a condominium unit in east gallery place, the reality is you have to earn your keep. You cannot expect to keep on mooching off from your parents or relatives and in a sense; it would give you some semblance of financial responsibility by taking the initiative of paying a fraction of the bills. Sharing economic responsibilities would reduce the family’s money strain and would grant you a wider leverage over where your money goes.

2.)    YOU WOULD NOT NEED ANY HIRED HELP

Considering that there are more heads in one home, the division of household tasks would be incredibly easy. Additionally, parents would not have to worry about leaving kids with nannies or hired help as the grandparents can do it—a better alternative as these are people you actually trust. Similarly, young adults can take care of their older family members who might have special needs.

3.)    LEARNING FROM EACH OTHER

One of the many perks of living in a multi-generational family is hearing the many anecdotes our grandparents would tell us about their time during the Second World War, or even how the times were vastly different than it is today. In the same vein, younger kids would be able to teach them how to use the personal computer, social media, and other modern technology. This is also the type of relationship that would foster strong bonds.

4.)    THERE IS ALWAYS A FAMILY SUPPORT STRUCTURE

Living with extended family means that the adults can share their burdens, worries, and responsibilities to the other adults,  they can also ask for advice from older family members. Likewise, kids would have a closer relationship with their cousins as they would be able to routinely play with them while they are at home just as siblings would do. As a result, a cultivation of various values and shared principles will ensue, and naturally, it would form a close family support.

 

Home Security 101: Five Essential Things to Have and Do

My house is my refuge, an emotional piece of architecture, not a cold piece of convenience. ~Luis Barragan

Our homes, may it be the cheapest house and lot in Laguna, the Philippines, are our personal sanctuaries where we should feel most safe, protected and at home. It is that one place that we can count on to shelter and shield us from any harm that the outside world may bring upon us. The living spaces we reside in do not only function as dwellings but safe places where we can foster the growth of our children, nurture and cultivate relationships and serve as the comfortable respite from the day’s activities.

This is why any form of breach into our private refuges is the pinnacle of any homeowner’s trepidation and anxiety. It matters not whether you are living in a lush estate or elsewhere because burglars do not discriminate. When they see an opportunity to steal, they will steal.

Installation of home security equipment and gadgets may be a way to discourage unsavory, uninvited guests and pilferers from marking your home as their next potential target. And though installation of these state of the art devices would allay your fears of possibly having your house burgled, complementing them with classic security measures would be your home’s best avenue for security.

And the great thing is? Some of these would not even cost you anything at all.

1.) Update exterior locks

Deadbolts may look clunky and may seem outdated, but they should be the primary lock when it comes to your exterior doors as this is the primary door that separates your home from the outside. Your throw bolt which is the part that enters the door frame should extend deep into the frame.

It does not stop there, however. You should also make sure that your windows (especially the old ones) have window locks installed that still work well.

2.) Choose solid doors

When it comes to exterior doors, you should not want anything fancy such as glass doors which are not only easy to break but would give potential miscreants and thieves a peek into what they can potentially steal from your homes.

Exterior doors should be made entirely from wood or are otherwise wood covered or enclosed in a steel shell. Additionally, these doors should not be weaker than the lock you place on it.

3.) Consider having a dog

Dogs do not only function as your furry and cuddly pet companions, but they can also serve as your home’s chief insecurity as well. They do not have to be incredibly huge to deter robbers from raiding your homes as their bark would be enough to prevent thieves.

Dogs are known to be loyal to their owners and would easily recognize who is an unwelcome guest. Alternatively, if you are allergic to dogs, you can install security alarms that would mimic a dog’s bark.

4.) Trim areas where robbers may potentially hide

Having a beautiful lawn can aesthetically augment any home, but having an unkempt one can be to your disadvantage. Bushes, shrubs, and trees positioned near doors and windows can be tricky spots for robbers. This way they should be routinely trimmed and cut down. Thieves can easily hide behind these plants and go undetected.

5.) Have safety

If there is an imperative need to invest in anything that would contribute to home security, acquiring a safe should be your first bet. These safes do not only function as an obstacle for your thieves in accessing pivotal documents and items, but they also keep those precious items in case of a fire which effectively doubles its purpose.

Should you have documents (marriage certificates/licenses, birth certificates, social security cards) and small items of great value (jewelry and spare cash for instance), placing them inside a safe is the best way to conceal them or if discoveredkeep them from falling into a thief’s hands.