“To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all. To a woman, the first kiss is just the end of the beginning. But to a man, it is the beginning of the end.” –Author Unknown
Moving in together can be bliss.
Incidentally, it is also a huge milestone for most relationships—insomuch that in one way or another, it is only one step shy away from marriage. Some might even argue that moving in together is more of a radical change than getting married only because of just how much you would need to adapt to assimilate into your new life. Unfortunately, while moving in together might predictably seem like the next big step most long-term couples would take, there is no right time to do it. Some couples would do it right off the bat, while the rest would wait for a significant number of years before electing to live under one room.
Furthermore, there is a myriad of reasons why couples would wish to move in together, ranging from practicality to quixotic. In some cases, moving in together can be seen as an excellent segue for marriage or at least, a trial period for it. However, while the reasons for moving in may be varied, there are definite signs in your couplehood that would mark your capability and potential for moving in and sharing space together. So, before you and your partner start scouring leaflets for units in Avida Taguig or elsewhere, you might want to know whether you and your partner are ready to take the next step.
Here are just some of the signs that you might be ready to move in together:
1.) You understand each other’s habits
It has been said that familiarity breeds contempt and in some ways, this sentiment might be true. In fact, you might discover just how true that statement might be once you and your partner start living under one roof. It can be that their little quirks that you once overlooked or found cute would irritate you on an everyday basis. Living in proximity to someone whose odd habits can quickly escalate into a fight if they remain unaddressed or if you refuse to understand and adapt to them. Conflicts are inevitable, but if you find that your partner’s habits would constantly grate your nerves, you might wish to rethink your prospective living arrangement.
2.) You can talk about money
Most relationships fail because couples would refuse to address their pecuniary issues. It has been found that money can be a major cause of anxiety in relationships insomuch that some partners might be dishonest about how they spend their money and would only come clean once a financial snag comes up. Before you even consider moving in together, financial struggles and troubles should be attended to and thoroughly discussed. Putting them off until you are already under one roof would be too late. Remember, you are going to be splitting a range of expenses from the rent down to the groceries. If your partner cannot keep his or her finances in order, you cannot realistically expect to keep on picking up their slack. If either of you does not know how to live like a responsible adult, then you might not be ready to live together just yet.
3.) It is inconvenient (and impractical) to live separately
Although spending a lot of time together does not make for a compelling reason to move in together, if your schedules are synchronized and lined up insomuch that living apart is actually inconvenient (not to mention, impractical) then take that as a sign that you are ready. Apart from the obvious benefit of having your partner just in within your reach, living together can significantly reduce your monthly expenses. In this regard, if living together is the most workable tack especially if it means less of a hassle for you, then go ahead and consider it.
4.) You acknowledge that it would be a challenge
Living together, while blissful on the outset, is not always sunshine and rainbows. In this regard, it is pivotal that the both of you have an awareness of the potential struggles you might have to put up with. Moreover, it would make sense if you discussed this head on to avoid conflicts and arguments down the road. Furthermore, discussing what prospective issues you might have would help the both of you manage your expectations from your living setup. No matter how in love the both of you might seem, you are still two different persons and you incompatibilities might flare up when closeted in that proximity. Be sure you know how to handle each other when tensions flare up.