Five Signs You Are Not Ready to Move in Together

“A couple who go on living together merely because that was how they began without any other reason: was that what we were turning into?” –Simone de Beauvoir

So you and your partner have been together for quite some time now. You have both been contemplating the next big step, but are not yet ready to tie the knot just yet. Instead of marriage, you and your partner wish to try and test out the waters first by choosing to live in one house for the meantime. Sure, moving in together sounds like a blissful idea—a milestone in your relationship if you may. Unfortunately, while sleeping and waking up next to your partner sounds like a quixotic and dreamy scenario, if you are doing it for the wrong reasons, you and your partner could potentially face issues and complications down the road.

In any case, if you and your partner are looking for a place to move in together—such as in Avida Towers Centera perhaps or elsewhere, it might be wise to revisit and reevaluate the reasons why you are both doing this. If you find any of your reasons listed below, it might be best if you waited a little longer until you moved into a single residence together.

1.) You are doing it because it is financially easier

Romantic and cheesy scenarios aside, you and your partner are thinking of moving in together because it seems like the practical approach. Living together with your partner means that you would have to pool your resources together to defray day-to-day expenses and from your standpoint, it seems like a financially sound idea. However, no matter how counterintuitive this might sound, you should never commingle funds unless you are both legally tied down. After all, you would not want to develop a consumer-based framework for your relationship that basically relies on economic ease.

2.) You have a volatile relationship

Sure, it is healthy for couples to have disputes now and then—after all, it encourages relationship growth. However, if you and your partner are constantly fighting day after day, it might not be a good idea to live under one roof. If you think that living together would magically put an end to your disagreements and wrangles, you are in for a rude awakening.

3.) You do not see them as your potential spouse

If you, as an individual, are a firm believer in marriage and cannot see your partner as someone you might potentially tie the knot with, moving in together would be pointless. Although marriage is no prerequisite for moving in together, it is a prospect or a foregone conclusion for individuals who do want to get married. If you do not see yourself sharing his name, or see yourself giving her your name, then what is the point of moving in together?

4.) You are doing it under the impression that it would strengthen your relationship

Before moving in, you should already feel strongly about your significant other. If you are doing it purely because you think it will strengthen your relationship ties and make you a stronger couple, then you are doing it for all the wrong reasons. If you think you and your partner are not quite there yet, there is no reason to force yourself (and your relationship for that matter) into a space that you are not quite ready for.

5.) You are too shy of your basic bodily functions whenever you are around your partner

When you live under one roof, some bodily functions such as burping, farting and even pooping are inevitable things that would happen to your partner. If these are things you are still shy about, you might want to put a hold on the whole moving in together phase. In any case, your relationship might not even be mature enough for that phase yet.

 

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Mind Your “Apartment Manners”

Being on your own doesn’t mean you can go around the area and trash the place. You need to build a good reputation. A good reputation will help you get along with your neighbors. It makes the landlord proud of you. Most of all, you learn to live accordingly.

You need to cultivate manners. Being a twenty-something at the Lerato for rent is classy, but nothing beats a tenant with manners. Nowadays, renters and homeowners are much focused on traveling. They forget to provide a sense of community because they are not bent on settling. Still, people with class would rather have apartment decorum before expensive upholstery.

Manners are easy to learn if you give time to it. Here are five civilities you can practice:

Sending warm greetings to neighbors

It feels nice to receive a “good morning” with a smile.

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Why don’t you try doing the same to the people next door?

Offer a smile and nod to acknowledge their presence when you encounter anyone from the building.  That way, they can warm up to you. Bid them a good day and remember to say please or thank you every time something comes up. A sincere greeting now and then is the easiest way for people to like you. Plus, they will remember you for your pleasant attitude and friendly demeanor.

 

Spending time with family and friends

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It may not be your neighbors’ business, but having no one come to your home may send warning bells. Neighbors can get suspicious of you.

It’s unusual to have no family or friends come over, even just once.

To avoid suspicion, invite your relatives and friends over the weekend.  You may not have the luxury to meet them in your hometown or at the usual hangout joint, but your apartment is free. Bring the festivities at indoors. Host a dinner or slumber party. You can also offer your place as a chill-out spot for the barkada. You can suggest a potluck on food and drinks if you’re not the type to cook.

 

Keeping your apartment tidy.

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Consider other people in the vicinity, especially if you live in Lerato. If you are not aware, your home extends to the other areas of the complex like the fitness area, pool, gardens and parking lot.

 

Practicing neatness and order doesn’t stop at your unit.

Try not act like a privileged neighbor who has an au pair which follows your every move. If you have to dispose of your trash, properly segregate and wrap it. Take note of collection dates and don’t leave a week’s worth of junk at your door. Don’t expect others to dump it for you. Stocking the junk will leave an unpleasant smell. Neighbors will come knocking at your door.

At the same time, don’t be a slob behind closed doors. While no one can see the state of your rental on days you are in a rush, the stress of having a messy space can affect you. What’s worse, you never know when maintenance will visit. Better keep the place clean at all times.

When people come over, remind them of the rules in the building. It’s best they follow them to avoid penalties. It’s hard to get branded as misfits.

Organizing and making the space personal.

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Space is limited in a rental. It doesn’t have the comforts of a house, especially when hanging clothes. Have a space for hanging delicates in the kitchen or corner space instead of the balcony. Place these pieces of clothing out of the way.

Try to personalize your living area.

Add decorations that will bring out your personality. A cozy interior provides a breather from the pressures of work and daily life. Inspirational pieces will break the monotony of the space and motivate you in the walls of your home.

 

Prioritizing your health.

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Spreading virus and bacteria especially in confined spaces is possible. The elevator, function rooms and communal are possible breeding grounds for harmful diseases.

Be a good neighbor by taking care of your health so you won’t be the one to start an epidemic in the area. Stay active and make use of fitness amenities in the complex. The moment you find yourself with signs of any sickness, take some rest. If it doesn’t go away, visit your doctor.

If you start practicing these five manners, neighbors will start being cordial to you. Ditch the habit of being a flighty millennial and embrace the warmth of belonging to a community. Attend to your manners and your apartment’s building will be the oasis you crave.

Four Features of a Good Neighborhood

 

 

Love thy neighbor as yourself, but choose your neighborhood. ~Louise Beal

One of the most crucial aspects to consider in purchasing a home in the neighborhood. As it is, you are not only there to buy a comfortable home to live in, but you are buying into a neighborhood where you would raise your children and foster relationships as well.

Considering this to be the case, it is a good idea to carefully scrutinize every single facet your potential neighborhood has in such a way that when you have ultimately arrived at a favorable decision, you can see yourself and your family acclimating to the new environment well.

Every single one of us may have a different set of standards for when purchasing a home, but a universal characteristic for these homes regardless of whether they may be billeted in a condo in Mandaluyong or any other lush area is that they should all be from good neighborhoods.

So what are the various characteristics that would make a good community? Read down below to find out.

1.) It should encourage greater mobility

Apart from accessibility, your neighborhood should offer its residents the convenience of getting around not only for motorists but for pedestrians as well. It should provide an equal ease of access and mobility for everyone. In the same vein, your neighborhood should be equipped with adequate parking spaces for cars or motorcycles and similarly should have sufficient pathways for pedestrians.

These pathways should be well lit and should accommodate pedestrians of any kind (cyclists and people on non-conventional vehicles such as Segways, Skateboards, wheelchairs and the like).

2.) It should have features that would add to the overall comfort and convenience of residents

A comfortable and safe home is one thing. But a good neighborhood complemented with essential establishments within its vicinities such as places of work, malls, recreational facilities and hospitals is the penultimate factor in deciding whether a home is billeted in a good neighborhood.

This provides its residents easy access to major establishments and would make city living rather easy.

3.) It should have adequate security measures

One thing you should never compromise when it comes to choosing a neighborhood is safe. It is imperative that each and every single one of your family members can truly feel at safe whether they are coming home from work or school or are making their daily commute towards their destination.

One thing that can guarantee you that a neighborhood’s safety is of paramount interest to the developer is when you see visible security personnel such as security guards doing rounds at random hours of the day. Take note, your home is a place of sanctuary, and if your neighborhood is not even safe, to begin with, any potential breach into your homes is not entirely impossible.

4.) It encourages social interaction

People are social creatures, and in choosing a neighborhood, it is important that you consider the potential neighbors you might have should you integrate yourself into their social sphere. One aspect if a good neighborhood is one that has an established sense of community and belonging among its residents. This is because should you be their neighbor, you would know that your neighbors would be more than willing to help you should there be anything you need.

Community facilities such as playgrounds, sports courts, and other recreational amenities would provide easy avenues for neighbors to interact and bond.

Last, but not the least characteristic that one should consider in choosing a neighborhood is that it should have character. Whether that may be the artsy neighborhood where most lost artists, vocalists trying to find their voice and soul or revolutionary chefs or an emerging hub for young corporate employees looking to establish a family.

Whatever it may be, make sure it has that one distinct and identifiable character that would strengthen your affinity towards it. This would set your neighborhood apart from all other communities and make it uniquely you—a home in an environment you can truly come home to.

Furniture 101: When to Splurge or Save on Furniture

 

 

Furniture must have a personality as well to be beautiful. – Rose Tarlow

It is said that a house is merely a shell without its furniture. In fact, nothing can be more drab and dull that a house devoid of its customary fittings and furnishings. This is why people would actually dedicate time and effort to finding the best types of fixtures their home should have. And because of this, furnishing styles have become incredibly diverse.

Styles emerged such as modern, minimalist, traditional, art deco and the like–all to cater every type of homeowner there is. However, as enthusiastic as we may be in committing ourselves to shopping for house furniture, we should never let that very same enthusiasm cloud our judgment when it comes to choosing the best bargain and deals.

Of course, this is not to say that you should always negotiate with the pricing as there is some furniture that you could actually splurge on. The key is to know which of this furniture you should splurge money on or strike a bargain with or perhaps get at a lower price. So that regardless of whether you are finishing up your condo Philippines interior design or your residential homes, you would be conducting your furniture shopping wisely.

WHEN TO SAVE

If a particular furniture is seasonal

Some of us, Filipinos, are known for being festive when it comes to house decorations–Easter, Halloween, and Christmas, you name it. But think about it, these seasonal items only see the light of day about once a year when the holiday occurs. Seeing as this is the case, the wisest course would be to skimp on splurging on those lavish yet pricey decorations. Go for the thriftier options when it comes to these decorations.

If the item is not a necessity

This needs no further elaboration, but to illustrate what need means in this context think of your budget and see how far it would stretch. Suppose it is kind of tight, and yet you saw that beautiful antique vase that would make the perfect decoration for your living room. The thing is, as pretty as it may be, this item is not a necessity, and it is certainly not worth compromising your budget over.

If the item is not an accent piece

Accent pieces are items that are of pivotal use for your everyday living. Non-accent pieces are their designated complementary furniture that serves a secondary purpose which is to enhance how the accent pieces look. These pieces would include side tables, storage bins and the like and more often than not, they rarely become a room’s main feature, so it is best to save on these and splurge on the primary ones such as sofas, dining tables, etc.

WHEN TO SPLURGE

If it affects your productivity

Furniture items that would make you more productive is a sound investment. It is definitely better to have a good night’s sleep on a good mattress after a day’s long work, so you could definitely splurge on a premium mattress. In the same vein, if it is how you earn your living (such as writing freelancer), it would be best if you splurged on furniture that would enhance your capability in doing your work such as a computer with a good processor and air conditioning to help you stay focused.

If the item has more than one purpose

This one is relatively straightforward. When you splurge on items that have a dual purpose, it is essentially getting two or three for the price of one which is necessarily practical as living spaces have no become rather smaller and yet pricier. So, the more functionality the furniture piece has, the better as you may be splurging a lot more when it comes to cash, but you are definitely saving up on space.

When it comes to furniture shopping, come up with a realistic budget before heading out to the home depot. Think of the things that you will truly need and take note how much time you would be spending at home to enjoy these items (a TV set wired to cable is hardly practical when you are never home to enjoy it). From there, use this as a guide to tick some items off the list on which ones you should save on and splurge on.

Why Hosting a Holiday Party is an Advantage

Christmas is fast approaching. And one of the traditions we usually do is to have a Christmas party to celebrate the birth of our Lord.

There are even some of us here have already had their Christmas party at their office, and their respective abode may it be a condo at BGC or a house and lot in Quezon City. While others are still planning to what they should do during Christmas.

Why not host a holiday party at home? Yes, invite some friends and families to come over! With that, you can, at least, make other people happy by inviting them over.

However, there are also some of you here who are not convinced of having a Christmas party at their house. Well, perhaps, they just don’t want any hassles at all.

If you are one of those people who just doesn’t feel like hosting a party, below are some reasons why hosting a holiday party at home is to your advantage.

Build community

When we talk about our community, it is not all the time we tend to mingle and have a good time with them. Of course, they also have a lot of things to do, especially to those neighbors who are busy with their work.

We only tend to mingle with them every weekend, and sometimes not. That is why, when you invite them to your place, this might be a chance that you and your neighbor will have good bonding moments together.

Try new food and wine

One of the things you should never forget to have when it comes to Christmas parties is the food and beverage. Of course, you should also provide your visitors good food and good wines. With that, they don’t just enjoy good memories, but they will also enjoy good dinner.

Moreover, you don’t have to worry about too much food or beverage, since there are some of your friends and families who will also bring good food and good wine. Well, you all just have to enjoy what you can all bring.

Have an opportunity to dress up

If you are a kind of person who doesn’t usually does some dressing up, then here is your chance. Sometimes, it will also depend on the theme that you will have. But usually, dressing up is one of the common themes most people choose.

You got the chance to show off your best dress that you have in your closet. Moreover, this is also one way to bring good feng shui to you and your home.

Recognize employees for their hard work

If you are an employer, Christmas parties are one of the many ways or chances that you can give your employees a reward or a thank you gift. Of course, it does not end just about gifts; it is also about the bond that you will make, setting aside work.

Well, you don’t know, there are still things that you don’t know anything about your employees. With that, you will eventually realize that your staff still have a lot of skills that needs to enhance. And with that alone, you can give them a chance to impart their abilities to work.

Experience a night in the town

Christmas parties usually end up late at night. Of course, there will be a lot of chatting, mingling, eating, drinking and enjoying the evening with the others. If you go home early, you might miss something important and fun.

Well, if you are one of those people who is not used to staying up and going home late, then you might want to try for a change, even if just for a night. With that, you will eventually realize that it’s good to have fun once in awhile.

Home-based: How Not To Give in to Distractions

Yes! I am going to work at home! That is one of the common thoughts we have in our minds when we hear the word, home-based. Who wouldn’t want to work in the comforts of your own condo while basking at the sight of cityscapes and skylines, right? Well, that’s one of the perks of owning a condo Philippines.

For some, working at home is definitely good news. They can do whatever they want and/or wear whatever outfit they feel like wearing while they work. However, for some others, working at home is the least they want to do. Well, there are hundreds to thousands of reasons why some employees don’t want to work at home. And you can be one of them too!

Well, if you are one of those people who is struggling when it comes to working at home, then there are straightforward and easy steps for you to apply to attain the desired working environment for you.

Find your groove

Each of us has a different way and/or routines before we can start working. Some of us like to work on a table where there are no things that can be seen, or maybe you need to sit on your favorite chair for you to think properly or a blanket on your lap, lights on and blinds shut. Or even you need to see the sun for you to start working.

All of us are different when it comes to working routines. That is why we need to find our groove on which is the most comfortable way of working. With that, you can now ready for work.

Dress up

Dressing up doesn’t mean that you are going to wear your corporate attire even if you are working at home. A casual get up will do, for as long as you are not wearing you’ve worn out clothes and/or pajamas. The tendency if you wear these outfits that are intended only for home wear is that you won’t feel like working at all. These comfortable clothes may lead you to an intense desire to feel relaxed rather than working. However, if you are dressed up, you are more likely to work, like working in an office environment.

Remove distractions

There are just times that we can’t avoid distractions. Cell phones, kids, roommates, pets, foods, television, and/or even parents – all of these distractions can interrupt our work anytime. However, we can control them. As much as possible, you have to get them out of your way. You can tell your parents, roommates and/or the kids that you are working and they should make their voice lower – no shouting and all.

However, if you really can’t avoid them, you can go somewhere where you won’t be distracted by your surroundings. And if you have your cell phones, you can turn it off, or turn it into a silent mode. Well, you have to make sure that you can set aside a separate time to check your phone and email so that you are not going to be distracted during your most productive time.

Set specific work hours

Scheduling your time is one of the many ways you can quickly finish your job since you have a goal in mind to finish it on time. If you have a lot of tasks to do, then you have to make sure that you divide your time efficiently for you to know what kind of work should you do at that particular time.

Log out of social media

If Facebook, Twitter, Instagram are not a part of your work, then you better log it all out. It will only make you work slower than the usual pace, and you will definitely not finish the tasks that you need to be done.

Although sometimes, we feel the urge to open up our social media accounts, however, you have to fight that urge until you’re done with the work that you have. Do you know that when you have that kind of urgency, that means you are not focusing on your job? Your mind is set on opening your account and not with the work that you should do.

There will always be pros and cons when we work at home – and we all definitely know that! Distractions are there willing to attack us any time of the day while we are working. And admit it! We hate it! Of course, who would enjoy it when you are interrupted by the things that you are doing, and it is annoying to think that we cannot finish the particular task that we are working on.

Moreover, it will always depend on how you handle the situation. If you are tempted to do things that can stop you from working, whether you like it or not, then it is still on your call.