Home Living: Four Reasons Why You SHOULD NOT Live Together Before Marriage

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“I am not a big advocate of living together before marriage. It can be the right thing, but it can also leave two people stuck together who have not figured out what they really want out of a relationship.”-Emily Yoffe

 

Today, most modern couples are shacking up together and have started living their lives under one roof.

After all, there is no point in living separately when rental fees or real estate is priced at a premium. However, it is also highly likely that we have been told that we should never try living under one roof with our significant other without the benefit of marriage. Coming from a deeply religious family, shacking up before I have tied the knot was always something my own mother warned me about. The usual story goes that I would be living in sin and that the longer I live with someone, the less likely they are going to marry me.

After all, as the saying goes: why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? However, antiquated and rather archaic beliefs aside, there are a few reasons why you should not jump into the idea of living with your significant other just yet. Sure, the idea might seem romantic—exciting even as who would not love waking up and sleeping next to their partners day after day? However, before you start building on the idea and scouring for properties in One Roxas Triangle or elsewhere, it is best to be aware of what you are getting into.

So, before testing the strength of your relationship or the enduring resilience of your love by moving in together, here are some of the things you ought to know about and why you should decide against the idea:

 

Solitude should be embraced

When you are on your own, you have your own space. You have a designated room where you can be as you are. However, all these are pretty much extinguished when you are living with a significant other. Once you are sharing a room, the both of you would be compromising on the color of the duvets or what kind of pillows you should use. Furthermore, you might be constrained to sacrifice some of your belongings. After all, space would be limited and you cannot realistically expect to stuff your shared room with all of your belongings. Compromising would be something the both of you would be doing quite often. So, enjoy your solitude while you still have it.

It gives you a way out should you need it

More often than not, couples live under one roof in order to mitigate rental costs and other expenses. However, this is not a good idea until both of you have already had all the difficult and rather unpleasant conversations. This includes what your plans in life for together, if and when you would get married and the like. With this in mind, you should not share a residential property with someone you are not even legally tied to—lest it would cost problems. Admittedly, breaking a rental contract would be a lot easier than getting a divorce or annulment, but you should still think twice about getting into a rental contract with someone if you do not even see yourself with them for the long haul.

You get to live on your own schedule (and terms)

Living with someone means that both of you would have to adapt to each other’s habits. And like stated above, the both of you would need to do a lot of compromising. Living alone means that you can come and go as you please. You have your own schedule without bothering anyone and can work late into the night without the compelling need to stay quiet so as not to disturb others. This is not the case when you are living together as you need to be flexible with each other’s schedules. When it is just you, it would be far easier.

Convenience is not romance

Rental, regardless of where you choose to live which is why most couples would attribute shacking up together to the high rental cost. Living together saves them a significant amount of money and would allow them to split the monthly rental cost. However, if you put it that way, is it romantic at all? Remember, deciding to move in together is a big step and is a rather huge deal. In one way or another, it is one step closer to getting married. So, if you have decided to live together for practical reasons, would it not effectively extinguish the romance and excitement in asking you to take your relationship to the next level? Much like a marriage proposal, most individuals would want it to come from a place of sincere and genuine love instead of lackluster convenience. Take note: this is a decision that would affect the both of you. Incidentally, it would also bind the both of you together. So, if your reason is simply to save some money, would it not defeat the romance in your relationship?

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6 Things to Do Before Hiring a Mover

 

 

What comes to your mind when we talk about moving out? Perhaps, a lot of you will think about what to do to make sure that there will be no damages while moving the things.

That is why most people would prefer hiring some professional movers to make sure that their things are still intact after the transfer. You may be moving into your new condo in Quezon City or any other real estate properties in the Philippines, hiring a mover is a good choice. However, you also have to know that not all movers are professional enough to do their job properly.

There are actually a lot of things you need to consider before deciding what moving company you should choose. And if you are one of those people who are first timers in hiring a mover, you might as well refer to these tips below on how you can effectively hire a mover.

1. Get recommendation

One of the things you might want to consider is the recommendations from your family and friends. Since they suggested that particular moving company, that means they trusted them when it comes to handling the things of their clients. Obviously, they will not recommend it to you when they know that mover is not that trustworthy enough to do the job properly.

 2. Do an initial screening

When choosing the right moving company, don’t just stick to one option. You must have a list of the companies you may want to hire. And for you to know if they are good enough, do some initial screening on them. Well, you can base your judgments on the reviews from their clients on whether they have a good service or not. And if they don’t have high ratings when it comes to the services they gave, then you might as well find another one.

3. You should end up with at least three or four companies to call for an in-home estimate

After narrowing down your options, make sure to end up with at least three or four companies on your list. Well, that is for you to make sure that if one is not available at that moment, then you still have the other three options for you to call. Just make sure that those remaining companies in your list are all trustworthy and professional enough on their field of work.

4. When an estimator comes to your home, show home everything

When you hire a mover, you should also expect that there will be estimators that will come to your home. Of course, they have to know how many moves will it takes to transfer all of your belongings to your new home. From the things in your closet, backyard, basement, and even in the attic, you have to show them everything. This will also give the estimator an idea on how much you should pay for the overall moving package.

5. When you’ve gotten all your estimates in, compare the bids

Whether you realize it or not, each moving company has their own way to estimate your things. That is why it is a must for you to know which company offers a lower price than the other. Moreover, don’t forget to make sure if there are any add-ons on the overall cost of the moving process.

6. Make sure your moving company has the license and insurance it needs to move your things legally

For you to avoid any complications later on, you need to make sure that the company you choose is legally enough to do the job. At least, if there will be some problems later on, at least you know where to complain. Moreover, this is also to ensure that they are not any scammers who will trick you will a higher price yet with a lower quality of moving services.