Four Things You Should Know About Your Partner before Moving in Together

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“Marriage is a framework to preserve friendship. It is valuable because it gives much more room to develop than just living together. It provides a base from which a person can work at understanding himself and another person.” –Robertson Davies

 

Moving in together is a relationship milestone only second to marriage.

With this in mind, it would be no wonder why so many long-term couples would quickly adapt to the idea and start living together under one roof. After all, sleeping and waking up next to your partner would certainly present a myriad of romantic possibilities. However, quixotic fantasies aside, living together would also solve a myriad of pecuniary difficulties through the unified defrayment of mortgage, rent and utility bills. Unfortunately, just because living together presents fantastic opportunities for the both of you (both practical and idealistic) does not mean that you should.

Arguably, you can view living together as a trial run for what your life would be like when you do become a married couple and see what your long-term partner is really like. But you also have to consider the possibility that moving in together might strain your relationship and cause it to progressively deteriorate. After all, there is much truth to the maxim that says “familiarity breeds contempt”. This is not to say that you should never live together before marriage, but it does encourage you to weigh your options and give your decision a little forethought. Do not go into this possibility without exploring all the outcomes and possibilities. Contemplate and consult with your partner and see if this is the right move for you. Furthermore, try to find out if you and your partner are in sync and if your lifestyles match as this would be a paramount consideration when it comes to deciding whether or not you should live together. Ask yourself if you truly know your partner and if you can see yourself living with them for the long haul as sharing an address is a significant decision to make.

So, before you start scouring for condominium units in the East Gallery Place or elsewhere, here are some of the things you should definitely know about your partner before moving in with them:

 

 

How they maintain their space

More often than not, the primary cause of outbursts and domestic arguments would stem from one partner’s refusal to clean up after himself or herself. While you were still living separately, these might seem like a fun quirk about them. However, if you have to deal with it daily, your partner’s inability to clean up after themselves would quickly escalate into an infuriating trait insomuch that you might find yourselves rubbing each other the wrong way. It might be that your partner has an affinity for clutter while you wish for the place to be as immaculate and pristine as possible. In any case, your lifestyles should match and you would need to iron out any deal-breakers before you decide to move in with them.

Their oddities and pet peeves

Everyone has their own fair share of idiosyncrasies and your partner will likely have them too. In this regard, you should know what their pet peeves are as they should with yours. Cohabitation means that you would be living in proximity to each other for most of the time and they might have little peculiarities that send you into a blind rage. Having your partner know what they are would enable them to manage their behavior in the same way you would do yours. Settle it before you move in together so that pet peeves would not become a cause for arguments in the future.

What their routine is like

Most individuals have a daily morning routine without even realizing it. Being a night owl or a morning person contributes to how you go about your day. In this regard, know how your partner generally behaves in the morning before you even consider living under one room. Know what their sleeping habits are and what their daily morning routine is. They might expect you to adapt to your schedule or they might choose to adapt to yours. In any case, this should be discussed so that you can have a lifestyle that would match.

How they handle money

Money is a sensitive issue that calls for difficult discussions when it comes to relationships. How your partner handles his or her finances would ultimately contribute to how well they would settle monthly bills. When you move in together, you would likely share your finances which is why it would be a wise move to know whether your partner has a blasé attitude as regards their finances or not. Furthermore, while it might be awkward, it is vital to have a heart-to-heart talk about how you intend to share the living and household expenses and how you can save for the future. Remember, these are pivotal things that need to be discussed in order to avoid snarky arguments about money in the long haul.

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Shopping in the City: How to Take Advantage of Weekend Markets in Manila

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You’ll discover a lot of things when you visit different organic, outdoors in Manila. From homegrown vegetables to grass-fed meat and a selection of food kiosks for the health conscious, you’ll find that it’s not difficult to stay healthy. All you need is to find a place to shop.

Some people find it a challenge to shop in other places besides the grocery store. Unfortunately, supermarkets don’t have the things you can see at a weekend market Manila. For instance, some groceries don’t have fresh fruits and vegetables. Most of their stock is outsourced from other regions and states. Supermarkets also have limited options of fresh produce. Some groceries only offer a specific type of meat or fish. Lastly, shoppers won’t get to experience the art of bargaining.

With all of these in mind, it might be better for you to take advantage of what farmers markets offer. If it’s your first time to visit one, here’s how you can make the most of your experience.

1. Get the vegetables as they are

Some produce especially root vegetables come with their greens or some roots. If you have the option to pick what to get, always those that are in their natural form. For one, they last longer when they’re not trimmed. Next, you get to have free food. You can use the greens to make pesto or cook the radish and beets the same way you prepare chard or kale.

2. Consider what’s in season

Most weekend markets only offer fruits and vegetables that are in season. Once you decide on a date to visit a market, you should first research what farmers grow during that time of the year. That way, you can avoid apples that lack texture or bland oranges. It’ll also help you look for substitutes and avoid having your expectation thrown out of the window.

3. Think of the market’s location

Besides what’s in season, the market’s location can also influence what’s on the stores. Some weekend markets only have fresh produce while others have food stalls or sellers that feature locally sourced clothing, accessories, and other items. Markets that are near plantations and backyard farms are likely to have fresh fruits, vegetables, and meat while those near the seaside have a greater chance of selling seafood.

4. Be an early bird

Since weekend markets are sparse in Manila, the stock quickly runs out. Most people want to get their hands on the best products, so they get their early. If you don’t want to get the scraps, then you should be an early bird. You have a chance to pick the best items in the stalls when you make time for your shopping. If you’re after perishables such as meat and seafood, then you should visit the market in the morning.

5. Know how to pick your produce

Fruits and vegetables can look odd or feature a different shape, but that doesn’t mean they won’t taste great. Before you shop for greens and colorful crops, you must first know how to pick the best tasting ones from those that aren’t. You can always ask the farmer or the seller to pick them for you, but it’s much better to know you got the things you need by yourself.

6. Pick your purchases

An organic market is not always the best place to get your goods. You can get bread at a local bakery or jams and sauces at the grocery store near your home. Of course, you’ll be helping farmers when you choose their stuff over commercially produced ones. If you are already a patron of a brand or a store, then you shouldn’t trade your favorite over what you saw at the market. Pick your purchases and only choose those that interest you and those you need.

7. Look around

Don’t stick to the same store to get everything off your shopping list. Remember, several stalls are selling the same item. However, their goods can have different quality and prices. You should look around before getting your stuff. Try their samples, look at the prices and talk with the farmers. Learn how they grow their produce or what are the ingredients they use for their creations. You’ll end up with more options than when you first came to the market in choosing your goods.

8. Try the unusual

An organic market is a great place to find items that aren’t on the shelves of grocery stores. You can find irregular shapes vegetables, exotic fruits, and other homemade creations. Don’t be afraid to try all of them. If you’re not sure how to use them for your recipes, you can ask the farmer or seller for ideas. You can also search the Internet on how to prepare them or come up with unique meals for your family.

Each market has a specific structure. Knowing how the market works and its different characteristics can help you prepare accordingly. But, you don’t have to worry so much. These tips can back you up and help you have a great time shopping. With these tips, you won’t have a problem navigating a weekend market.

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12 Life Tips to Help You Fake It Till You Make It

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It’s not fun to be broke. Hell, no one wants the feeling of being broke. No one relishes in the fact that they don’t have money. No one wants to admit they can’t afford to go clubbing every Friday night, go shop for designer clothes at the 30th Mall or grab some bite at the fancy organic restaurant that opened last week. It’s sad, but it’s the truth. Not everyone has a six-figure paycheck or something like that.

These people are regular people. They are the hard-workers in the office who don’t get as much as they’d hope to have. They might have manicured lawns, by they don’t have anything on their savings account. These people are the kind of people who need to save up to celebrate the holidays.

If you are one of those people, there’s no shame in admitting it. Most of the population belong to this economic bracket. In reality, they fake it. They fake it until they make it. You can do the same too, and this is how to do it.

1. Don’t quit your job

If you don’t have a backup plan, you shouldn’t pass a resignation letter. You shouldn’t leave your job when you don’t have a fallback. It’s risky. There isn’t any assurance you’ll get a source of income as soon as you leave your company.

2. Become productive

Don’t spend your time on trivial things. Spend it on things that help you grow as a person and thrive as a professional. Take online classes. Most of them are free and readily available. Learn a new skill. You can find a lot of tutorials and instructions on the Internet. Find something to do that helps you earn money.

3. Don’t be a time waster

Don’t ever waste someone’s time. Time is a valuable resource. It’s also something no one can ever take back. If you’re running late, give them a call or leave a message. If there’s a conflict of interest, you should inform them ahead of time.

4. Be honest about your finances

It pays to be truthful to yourself and those around you. Don’t keep secrets to your partner. Don’t cover up your spending habits or mistakes. Most couples end up in divorce because they choose to keep things to themselves. Open up about the thing you do to build trust.

5. Save up for rainy days

You never know when you’ll run into emergencies. Eventually, someone gets sick. Other times, it’s your home that needs repairs. You should always be prepared for the things that might come your way.

6. Don’t waste water and electricity

If you’re low on budget, then you must consider how you consume these two. Remember, you have control over how you use these two things. Don’t leave the tap running. Limit turning on the water heater. You should also think about using surge protectors. You can save a lot of money when you become cautious about how you use water and electricity.

7. Limit expenses

Try not to undertake new financial responsibilities especially when you can’t handle them anymore. It only attracts problems in the household. It also places additional pressure on you.

8. Walk

Use your feet. Don’t drive the car when you can walk towards the place you need to be. It helps you save money on gas. Moreover, it reduces traffic and pollution. Last but not least, you get fresh air and exercise.

9. Don’t go on expensive dates

There are plenty of cheap date ideas you should try. Instead of ordering a salad and a steak, you should try visiting the library or the local museum. You can also set up tables and tents in each other’s backyard instead of going to the movies and consuming overpriced popcorn. Being picky about your activities doesn’t mean you’re a cheapskate. It only shows you’re being smart about your choices.

10. Do the cleaning yourself

Don’t be lazy. Don’t hire a housekeeper to wash the dishes or scrub your bathroom tiles. Teach yourself to do them. It can some work, but you’ll manage as long as you have patience. You should also try cleaning the car and tending the grass yourself. You’ll learn to take better care of your things when you tidy up by yourself.

11. Don’t shop for expensive gifts

Holidays, birthdays and special occasions often call for gifts. But, it doesn’t mean you have to purchase the most expensive ones on the shelf. Before you go shopping, you should put your budget to mind. You shouldn’t get things that go beyond your limit.

12. Don’t take frequent trips to the salon and spa

It feels nice to pamper yourself, but you don’t need someone else to do it for you. You do your nails at home or try DIY facial treatments without heading to the spa. Frequent pampering sessions are a must, but they bloat your expenses.

Faking it doesn’t mean you’re trying to be someone else. It just means you’re doing your best to get by when your income isn’t enough to cover your needs. These are the things that can help you do it. Practice them until they become part of your routine. That way, it feels natural and fits your life like a glove.

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Home Selling Ventures: Four Signs a Home Buyer is Not Serious About Purchasing

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“If I were asked to name the chief benefit of a house, I should say: the house shelters daydreaming, the house protects the dreamer and the house allows one to dream in peace.” -Gaston Bachelard

 

Selling your home can be a lengthy and exhausting process.

Although it is a worthy endeavor (and a lucrative one depending on how well you can inveigle your buyers in negotiations), it can often be frustrating and just a tad bit disappointing. This is particularly true if your real estate properties have been sitting for quite some time now without any real leads or prospects. Although the market will always have a stream of interested prospective homebuyers, the market is fraught with unreliable home buyers who have no intention of pushing through a sale. Regardless of robust the real estate market might be, if you are entertaining a potential buyer who has no real intention of pushing through a sale, you will inevitably be running headfirst into a wall. The venture itself is already a challenging one, add one potential homebuyer whose purchasing intent is rather ambiguous to that equation and you would have a recipe for disappointment.

As a home seller whose main goal is to succeed in selling your property, getting your hopes up to no avail can be pretty frustrating. Unfortunately, just because one prospective buyer showed enthusiasm and expressed their excitement about your property does not automatically mean that they would right away proceed with the deal with you. In every industry, there will always be a handful of so-called prospects who would do no more than raise your hopes up only to waste your time. Your job as a home seller is to sift them from potential buyers who are genuinely interested in your property. So, how do you determine whether the prospective buyer milling about in your Avida Towers Centera has a genuine intent in buying your property or not?

Well, here are some of the signs that a homebuyer is not serious about purchasing your property:

 

1.) They have just begun their search

The search for a perfect and ideal home is a long arduous press. In this regard, it is incredibly rare for a potential buyer to go with the first property they see. In fact, it typically takes a home buyer at least three months to buy a home or even just decide to take a look at it. Of course, as real estate property is a significant investment, they would most probably look at several houses before they even decide to buy. So, if they just started their search, it is hardly likely that you will get an offer.

2.)  They do not have agents

If a buyer comes knocking to your home without a real estate agent, they are not serious about buying a home just yet. Typically, the services of a real estate agent cost that buyer virtually nothing as their commissions are shouldered by the home seller. If a prospective buyer cannot even make the effort of enlisting the free service and expertise of a professional, then they are not motivated enough to buy a home.

3.) You meet them in open houses

It is  very unlikely for you to receive an offer from a buyer who you have picked out at an open house. While some of these prospective buyers are indeed looking for a home to buy, a majority of them are there with plans of buying a home still in the horizon–which means that they are not looking to buy anytime soon (or even in that year for that matter). Serious buyers would often commence their search online and if they are interested in a property, they would request for a private showing.

4.) Looking for homes sans a pre-approval from a lender

There is no need to elaborate this as it is very clear. You do not need to read between the lines when it comes to this sign. After all, a pre-approval would be the single and most reliable way to show a home seller that a buyer can afford to buy real estate property. Without one, they would not have any real indication and concrete proof that they can.

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