Five Signs You Are Not Ready to Move in Together

“A couple who go on living together merely because that was how they began without any other reason: was that what we were turning into?” –Simone de Beauvoir

So you and your partner have been together for quite some time now. You have both been contemplating the next big step, but are not yet ready to tie the knot just yet. Instead of marriage, you and your partner wish to try and test out the waters first by choosing to live in one house for the meantime. Sure, moving in together sounds like a blissful idea—a milestone in your relationship if you may. Unfortunately, while sleeping and waking up next to your partner sounds like a quixotic and dreamy scenario, if you are doing it for the wrong reasons, you and your partner could potentially face issues and complications down the road.

In any case, if you and your partner are looking for a place to move in together—such as in Avida Towers Centera perhaps or elsewhere, it might be wise to revisit and reevaluate the reasons why you are both doing this. If you find any of your reasons listed below, it might be best if you waited a little longer until you moved into a single residence together.

1.) You are doing it because it is financially easier

Romantic and cheesy scenarios aside, you and your partner are thinking of moving in together because it seems like the practical approach. Living together with your partner means that you would have to pool your resources together to defray day-to-day expenses and from your standpoint, it seems like a financially sound idea. However, no matter how counterintuitive this might sound, you should never commingle funds unless you are both legally tied down. After all, you would not want to develop a consumer-based framework for your relationship that basically relies on economic ease.

2.) You have a volatile relationship

Sure, it is healthy for couples to have disputes now and then—after all, it encourages relationship growth. However, if you and your partner are constantly fighting day after day, it might not be a good idea to live under one roof. If you think that living together would magically put an end to your disagreements and wrangles, you are in for a rude awakening.

3.) You do not see them as your potential spouse

If you, as an individual, are a firm believer in marriage and cannot see your partner as someone you might potentially tie the knot with, moving in together would be pointless. Although marriage is no prerequisite for moving in together, it is a prospect or a foregone conclusion for individuals who do want to get married. If you do not see yourself sharing his name, or see yourself giving her your name, then what is the point of moving in together?

4.) You are doing it under the impression that it would strengthen your relationship

Before moving in, you should already feel strongly about your significant other. If you are doing it purely because you think it will strengthen your relationship ties and make you a stronger couple, then you are doing it for all the wrong reasons. If you think you and your partner are not quite there yet, there is no reason to force yourself (and your relationship for that matter) into a space that you are not quite ready for.

5.) You are too shy of your basic bodily functions whenever you are around your partner

When you live under one roof, some bodily functions such as burping, farting and even pooping are inevitable things that would happen to your partner. If these are things you are still shy about, you might want to put a hold on the whole moving in together phase. In any case, your relationship might not even be mature enough for that phase yet.

 

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