Five Signs You Are Not Ready to Move in Together

“A couple who go on living together merely because that was how they began without any other reason: was that what we were turning into?” –Simone de Beauvoir

So you and your partner have been together for quite some time now. You have both been contemplating the next big step, but are not yet ready to tie the knot just yet. Instead of marriage, you and your partner wish to try and test out the waters first by choosing to live in one house for the meantime. Sure, moving in together sounds like a blissful idea—a milestone in your relationship if you may. Unfortunately, while sleeping and waking up next to your partner sounds like a quixotic and dreamy scenario, if you are doing it for the wrong reasons, you and your partner could potentially face issues and complications down the road.

In any case, if you and your partner are looking for a place to move in together—such as in Avida Towers Centera perhaps or elsewhere, it might be wise to revisit and reevaluate the reasons why you are both doing this. If you find any of your reasons listed below, it might be best if you waited a little longer until you moved into a single residence together.

1.) You are doing it because it is financially easier

Romantic and cheesy scenarios aside, you and your partner are thinking of moving in together because it seems like the practical approach. Living together with your partner means that you would have to pool your resources together to defray day-to-day expenses and from your standpoint, it seems like a financially sound idea. However, no matter how counterintuitive this might sound, you should never commingle funds unless you are both legally tied down. After all, you would not want to develop a consumer-based framework for your relationship that basically relies on economic ease.

2.) You have a volatile relationship

Sure, it is healthy for couples to have disputes now and then—after all, it encourages relationship growth. However, if you and your partner are constantly fighting day after day, it might not be a good idea to live under one roof. If you think that living together would magically put an end to your disagreements and wrangles, you are in for a rude awakening.

3.) You do not see them as your potential spouse

If you, as an individual, are a firm believer in marriage and cannot see your partner as someone you might potentially tie the knot with, moving in together would be pointless. Although marriage is no prerequisite for moving in together, it is a prospect or a foregone conclusion for individuals who do want to get married. If you do not see yourself sharing his name, or see yourself giving her your name, then what is the point of moving in together?

4.) You are doing it under the impression that it would strengthen your relationship

Before moving in, you should already feel strongly about your significant other. If you are doing it purely because you think it will strengthen your relationship ties and make you a stronger couple, then you are doing it for all the wrong reasons. If you think you and your partner are not quite there yet, there is no reason to force yourself (and your relationship for that matter) into a space that you are not quite ready for.

5.) You are too shy of your basic bodily functions whenever you are around your partner

When you live under one roof, some bodily functions such as burping, farting and even pooping are inevitable things that would happen to your partner. If these are things you are still shy about, you might want to put a hold on the whole moving in together phase. In any case, your relationship might not even be mature enough for that phase yet.

 

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Home Selling 101: Three Telltale Signs You Should Sell Your Home

“Our homes should inspire us to go out into the world to do great things and then welcome us back for refreshment.” –Melissa Michaels

There comes a time wherein you would feel you have overextended your stay in your current home or perhaps have overstayed your welcome in a rental. Regardless of whatever it may be, there will always come a time wherein you will feel that selling your home would be necessary and inevitable. While some people live in their first or second home forever, there is also quite a fraction of people who cannot make that sort of commitment. Unfortunately, while your motivation for selling the house might be there, knowing the appropriate time to have it listed on the market can be quite challenging.

Moreover, apart from having difficulty in determining when the time is prime for selling is, the entire process can be fraught with complications such as emotional attachment. After all, if you have lived in your home for a significant amount of time, listing it on the market can feel similar to breaking up with a longtime lover. Furthermore, your feelings of attachment would be further aggravated by the nostalgia you would inevitably feel.
However, this should not deter you, and although you may not exactly want to sell at the moment, some things would compel you to do so. Changes in life would sometimes make it necessary to move, and you should be leaving no room for self-doubt—especially if you think you can no longer fit your growing family in a two bedroom flat.

In any case, whether you intend to move your residence in Avida Cebu or elsewhere, here are some surefire signs that you have outgrown your home:

1.) You feel cramped, and you can no longer add rooms

One of the primary motivators for making a move is the fact that some families no longer fit into their current homes. However, even if your family is not growing it does not automatically mean that your current lifestyle would still fit with the house that you have. An example of such is if you have started working from home and might need a personal space that you would serve as your makeshift office. Similarly, you might have always wanted to pursue your passion for sewing and would need a room designated for that purpose. Unfortunately, your home is too small. If this is the case, then it might be time to sell your home.

2.) You have way too much space

Of course, there is such a thing as having too much space. While some homeowners are under the impression that bigger means better, it is not always necessarily so– especially true if you feel overwhelmed by the sheer size of your homes and are constantly bothered by the pronounced silence. You might have once had a big family whose children now have homes and families of their own. If it does not make sense for you to stay in a big house, it might be best to move into a smaller one and sell your existing home.

3.) You dislike the community and neighborhood

Perhaps some of the community rules no longer sit well with you, or you feel like you have not really made a connection with your neighbors. Whatever it may be, it is a reality that neighborhood dynamics can significantly influence one’s decision in selling a home. After all, if you can no longer live with the rules imposed, why would you stay? Sometimes, it is not the neighborhood that changes but you. Maybe you can no longer make the lengthy commute to work every day, or perhaps, your kids are getting a bit older and would need to associate themselves with other children their own age—which your neighborhood severely lacks. Whatever the case may be, if you feel like you are in the neighborhood, it might be time to make the move.