“It is through our extended family that we first learn to compromise and come to an understanding that even if we do not always agree about things we can still love and look out for each other.” –Sara Sheridan
Close family ties and tight-knit relationships are two characteristics that are definitive of Filipino culture.
The typical family home of a Filipino does not only consist of the parents and the kids; but it also extends well beyond to the other relatives such as the grandparents, the aunts, and uncles (and in some cases, even the niece and nephews). It is for this reason that Filipinos foster a great relationship with their relatives as they have been known to see their formative years with them in the home. In fact, save for a different few, Filipino children are known to live in the family home until the day get married, and even then, there would be couples who would choose to continue to live with their parents or several in-laws. Well-meaning friends and relatives may offer some unsolicited advice about living independently and would regale you with stories as regards the wide liberty afforded by independent living.
True enough, there are a lot of benefits when it comes to living alone (no one to boss you around, free to make your own choices without anyone’s interference or disapproval, etc.—truly an ideal setup for a millennial to live. However, not everyone is fortunate enough to afford to live on their own and may have to continue seeking board and shelter under the roof of the very home they spent their childhood in. Here are some of the very great reasons for living with extended family in one home:
1.) LESSER BILLS TO PAY
When you are billeted under one roof, regardless of whether it is a residential home such as Anvaya cove or a condominium unit in east gallery place, the reality is you have to earn your keep. You cannot expect to keep on mooching off from your parents or relatives and in a sense; it would give you some semblance of financial responsibility by taking the initiative of paying a fraction of the bills. Sharing economic responsibilities would reduce the family’s money strain and would grant you a wider leverage over where your money goes.
2.) YOU WOULD NOT NEED ANY HIRED HELP
Considering that there are more heads in one home, the division of household tasks would be incredibly easy. Additionally, parents would not have to worry about leaving kids with nannies or hired help as the grandparents can do it—a better alternative as these are people you actually trust. Similarly, young adults can take care of their older family members who might have special needs.
3.) LEARNING FROM EACH OTHER
One of the many perks of living in a multi-generational family is hearing the many anecdotes our grandparents would tell us about their time during the Second World War, or even how the times were vastly different than it is today. In the same vein, younger kids would be able to teach them how to use the personal computer, social media, and other modern technology. This is also the type of relationship that would foster strong bonds.
4.) THERE IS ALWAYS A FAMILY SUPPORT STRUCTURE
Living with extended family means that the adults can share their burdens, worries, and responsibilities to the other adults, they can also ask for advice from older family members. Likewise, kids would have a closer relationship with their cousins as they would be able to routinely play with them while they are at home just as siblings would do. As a result, a cultivation of various values and shared principles will ensue, and naturally, it would form a close family support.